Sunday, February 28, 2010

Dignity : Souls & Humans...

Man is a free agent; but he is not free if he does not believe it, for the more power he attributes to Destiny, the more he deprives himself of the power which God granted him when he gave him reason...

- Giacomo Casanova

It is important for us to seek and protect our own dignity rather than blame destiny. It is more about our conscious efforts than anything else. Seek and you shall find.....


Note: Please note that this post has no knowledge or research support from medical or psychological Studies. It is more of a personal observation of mine.

M.A.D... as I wish to put it is Multiple Attitude Disorder. I have seen many people in my life suffer from the above mentioned disorder. Firstly, let me discuss what I mean by M.A.D... Multiple Attitudes in simple setting is about how a certain someone tend to showcase different attitudes towards another certain someone depending on equation, circumstances, surroundings, situations which are all time bound. Without any personal bias, this is mostly observed in girls.

It is interesting to understand how this disorder tends to influence not only their attitude but also their decisions, actions and way they treat others. It is imperative to question ourselves whether or not we are needed to speak/be present in such situations when they arise. Most of the times it is a sudden attack of anger/ strong emotion that tilts the balance of a normal being to portray M.A.D. I strongly believe that such attacks if in minimal numbers add value to the emotion and also to the relation. But when such attacks happen to be more frequent and tend to create more disturbances than ripples, it is important to realize, that person needs some serious professional help....

Next time around, when someone says I am going M.A.D .... you know whom you are dealing with :)

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Reaching Out ...

There is a constant need to understand ourselves. I wish to reach to that within myself......

May the start we were supposed to see all the sad moments in life/ meet all the wrong-deceitful-false pride-lying is the only thing i can do-people/ get treated badly by life for being nice-humble-polite-caring/ be handled and spoken to rudely  by life even when you valued the moment and invested your soul into it/ be let down by life ...before life smiles at you/ meeting the right people/ treated with dignity and respect/ life gives you all that you truly deserve/ rewards for your sincerity-honesty-speaking the truth-being that we can appreciate the gift when life presents it to us.

Finally,  I made a conscious and painful decision to start working towards it. Wish me luck!

Monday, February 22, 2010


I hope that you will always know, 
whatever I do, wherever I go 
there is one thing I will never outgrow, 
and that is my love for you...
In our eyes you hung the moon, 
no child could have ever ask God
for a better dad than you were to us. 
We loved you then, and we love you still! 
Our eyes might not be able to look 
upon your gentle loving face,
but if we look with our hearts 
we still see your love.
I love you dad and miss you even more.

This is not a work of mine but something I deeply connect to ...

Sunday, February 21, 2010

I allow you to die alone ...

Everyone of us may have been through a period in our lives when we constantly question ourselves in regard to whether it was our responsibility that we ended up in the situation that we found ourselves in. Our constant battle with self in regard to finding a solution to the present situation will be lost in such a scenario. You tend to question your own ability to conquer and gain control over the situation. It becomes critical for us to believe in ourselves and understand that we were not wrong in our actions and that our expectations from ourselves and others were not met. This critical understanding of the situation is always needed. 

It is interesting that I wish to discuss a certain event in everyone's life i.e. death today. Friends, kindly do not get cynical and think that I hold a pessimistic view about life and death is all that I look forward to. No, the context in which this issue is discussed is in regard to that situation in our lives when we felt we were cheated by life, others and everything that is not us, and that we ended up in a situation where we cannot trust anyone and more so we are constantly struggling to find reasons to support an equation when it is already put to rest by forces beyond our control. It is important for most of us to realize that we are not wrong in our attempts to solve the equation. It is an attempt, a test by the divine power to make us realize what we are worth, friends it is important to understand we are our own torch-bearers and we alone can make or change our destiny and the way we wish to live our life. 

Many moments in my life, I have felt a strong urge to be critical about how others are, in regard to what they are as a person. I have met many people in my life who are big time losers, probably the word loser is a pretty decent way to describe their filthy trends of being ignorant, dumb and  challenged in regard to virtues.  I have noticed a common trend in all these unfortunate souls, they tend to create a false world around themselves, live in a false impression about living the life in good spirit, pretty low on self discipline and interestingly they offer dignity for happiness. A strong belief that false claims and ability to lie is seen as virtue by these friends of stupidity with very low regard to themselves and inability to understand that they are worth  far less than any small value of existence known to mankind. It is critical to realize that  these people who are pretty low in regard to self respect and character tend to use us as a tissue to grow over their fears. And many a time, we are left with a feeling of being treated with no respect. This, in my belief is the reason when most of us might have misunderstood our own abilities of being understanding enough to respect such beings who live life of deceit and concealment.

Friends, let us allow them to die alone ...

Friday, February 19, 2010

What Am I ? ART of being me

Note:  This post will deal with introduction of a concept of  Anticipation (Argument) - Review  (Reconciliation) - Trust yourself (Treated with Dignity). It is an attempt to understand how we need to evaluate the interest of a person we are in an argument with, in regard to arriving at a possible solution for a problem/issue at hand. 

When you feel a situation is beyond the possible human attempt to work on, and it is only leading to an emotional drain and being ill treated by life? It is always a known trend to anticipate, expect a certain reaction or certain scenario in regard to how things are and will be in the future. This is the anticipation phase of our solution analysis. This phase leads us into review mode and take stock of things. It is during this stage that we will be able to understand/judge the interest of the other parties involved in arriving at a solution. There is a strong possibility that everyone needs to compromise and arrive at a consensus for everyone to be happy. This phase is the most important of the three phases because it will define the value of yours. It is critical to understand that agreeing for a compromise is not about being ill treated but it is about our interest and sincere appreciation of the partnership/relationship/certain something which is under the review scanner now. 

This phase is followed by a critical phase of defining the way forward. It is always essential that you should trust yourself and do not let others/life/situations ill treat you and put you to a lower dignity. The essence of a happy life is about how we go about defining our dignity in the spaces we operate. It is interesting to notice and appreciate the fact that many times you wish to go the extra distance for its worth it. It definitely is, but if its an unfortunate situation that only you alone are trying hard while nature is forcing things away from you, then it is about time to recognize that nature and life is the best judge of the situation and everything does happen for a reason. It takes courage to let go and work on yourself for being a better person. Take every opportunity available to make the most of it. When life seems to be unfair and is forcing you to live on its terms in pain and being unhappy. It is more than just the need to change the is about how you should trust yourself and have faith in your ability. Its all about the question of whether or not you know the ART of living your life....Do you have the answer?

P.S.: This post has taken considerable amount of time and  I have recorded my observations at every phase of the process. True with any situation,  it is important to notice that the process is a long  drawn one. It is important that we respect it rather than hurrying ourselves into the next phase of the process.

Tuesday, February 02, 2010

Good Bye...

A Friend of mine shared this piece ... I realize its intent now ... I wanted to share it with readers of my blog.. The following lines are that of my friend....

ok...I know its strange that I am quoting an Ugly Betty episode, but this is too good to not pass on:

I've had to say goodbye more times than I would have liked. But everyone can say that. And no matter how many times we do it, even when if its for the greater good, it still stings. And though we'll never forget what we've given up, we owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward. What we cant do is live our lives always afraid of the next goodbye, because chances are they're not going to stop. The trick is to recognize when a goodbye can be a good thing, when its a chance to start again.

Take it for what its worth for you!