Monday, February 07, 2011
Often we find interesting lessons to pick up, from unexpected quarters. In this post, I wish to record lessons I picked up, from the Hindi movie Dil Toh Baccha Hai Ji, which I happened to watch today. For the uninitiated, and non – Hindi Speakers, Dil Toh Baccha Hai Ji is a 2011 Hindi film directed by Madhur Bhandarkar.
Anyone who’s looked at how men and women react to a similar situation can’t help but notice the way men and women think and prioritize differently. Each gender has its favorite clichés and there’s a similarity in attitude which is ever-present but hard to pin down. The movie aptly brings out the point that a trend of reverse sexism started to take hold these days, and that most of the women use men for their personal gain, and regard such an exercise as socially acceptable, and such behaviors are perfectly justifiable regardless of how they play with someone else’s emotions. Added to which most of the average men are foolish enough, and allow themselves to be used even when they have faced consequences for doing so earlier.
Today, it is unfortunate to notice that there is significant percentage of women out there who have no ethical conflict whatsoever with the idea of using men for favors while motivating them with false hopes of intimacy. Amongst all of us, more so, women of today, there is a growing deficit for good intention, leading to deficit in character. Added to which, such beings especially women, have limited aptitude, to think beyond the “As far as I am concerned, they're all lucky to be able to spend time with me, and they deserve to pay for the privilege” attitude.
When we speak of emotions, there are no victims; rather all of us are volunteers. We volunteer ourselves to seek, pursue and live an emotion. Every volunteer deserves respect for his commitment. There is a need for our actions to reflect our true intention. One needs to treat everyone’s emotion with due respect, and reveal their true intention through their actions. For women amongst the readers, I urge you to realize that the dangers (of a complete social breakdown) we face are real, and with power comes responsibility, allow your actions to truly represent your intention. Be woman enough, to stand up and live your true intention. For men amongst the readers, especially for those, whose fail to realize that they are being used, and yet continue to volunteer themselves to live a false emotion, please understand that a hand shake needs two hands, and not one; and that if you are to live a true emotion, everyone’s actions need to be true to their intention, and you do not do it all alone for free.
P.S.: This post is a reflection of my understanding on the subject presented in the movie Dil Toh Baccha Hai Ji, and does neither represent opinion of the Director, nor any member associated with the film. Additionally, this post is not a promotional exercise for the movie, but a sincere record of my understanding.