Please Note: This is an open letter dedicated to all Lousy Souls...The letter has enough suggestive description, if you are wondering who is such a soul... If you happen to know any lousy soul, do not allow them to miss this dedicated letter of mine....
Dear Lousy Soul,
Only if you could have told me about things honestly (I understand you do not have the habit of speaking the truth ever and nothing about you is true)... things would have been just the same as they are now... but more at peace and I would have not felt as being used at least...
I am not writing this letter to vent my emotions, threaten you or to ask you to consider anything. I feel it was not your fault..but mine.. I lost sight of reality and the real you...and when I think of it...it definitely was not worth my struggle... For you as a person, I have nothing against you now...let god alone judge you...
For the stories you have told me, I understand they have no significance anymore but even then ... I am not really sure if any of them is indeed true... but I understand my story was painfully true and I am put through it for a reason... and you happen to be a mere instrument to make me learn something...
I want to thank you for it...I am not really sure if you will read this letter ever....but even if you do...you will never change from being a lousy soul... will you?
I wish to call this phase of my lifeas "Cleansing Self" . Anecdotes often influence the decisions we make in life. Today, I happen to read the commentaries by Adi Sankaracharya (an Indian Philosopher who consolidated the doctrine of Advaita Vedanta) According to legend, while on his way to the Vishwanath Temple, Sankara came upon an untouchable (people who were traditionally regarded as low caste in those days) accompanied by four dogs. When asked to move aside by Shankara's disciples, the untouchable replied: "Do you wish that I move my ever lasting Self (Soul) or this body made of flesh?"
This incident made Shankara realize the meaning of life. He went on to write a commentary on Arishadvarga — the six passions of mind (desires), which are kama (lust), krodha (anger), lobha (greed), moha (delusion), mada (pride) and matsarya (jealousy), the negative characteristics which prevent man from realizing his destiny. Lust and anger are responsible for all kinds of difficult experiences which we have in our lives.With the false ego up and active, all our acting in the world becomes selfish and evil. Hence there is no other factor causing the illusory duality and the repeated pain and delusion it entails than the psychological ego-sense. When the materially identified ego has sided with the materialistic forces of creation, it is said to showcase evil passions, man's spiritual heritage constantly gets looted by these internal influences (and their numerous variations), causing him to lose knowledge of his true self.
I have come to understand more about what I am as a person, and where I stand at present. Since past few years, situations and events in my life transformed me from being a purer soul to someone I don't identify myself with. I have had people in my life who have taken advantage of me and my emotions. I have myself to blame, for I was weak and factors of trust, doubt, hatred, anger, pride, jealousy and delusion controlled my emotions, thoughts and hence my decisions. All these negative emotions have made me weak as a person, susceptible to others. Through this years, I always thought why others were behaving the way they did and I was trying to correct them. This resulted in a lot of negative thoughts being build up within me which include frustration, sympathy for self, helplessness, rejection of self. I was not able to forgive others, holding them responsible for the actions.
I now realize that I was wrong. It is not for them to change, but that I need to change. I have allowed myself to be used, abused (mentally and emotionally) because I was driven by the thoughts of deceit, hatred, self pity and no self dignity. I have given away my power and allowed others to destroy my entity because of these negative thoughts.
I wish to learn from my experiences....But, before I proceed, it is important that I make a conscious attempt to forgive those, who have had the opportunity to hurt me. I realize that it is not their fault but mine. I understand from what I learnt, I do not wish to hold anyone else responsible, I wish to take responsibility for my actions and my life. I want to work on growing over my negative influences and seek purity of thought.
When do we decide it is about time to seek change? Before we get there, we should probably be discussing the issue of reality. Only when we understand what reality is, we can do justice in regard what needs to change. Friends, what is reality? It is important to understand that what we see/hear is not reality...fools and fanatics are always certain of themselves/ their beliefs, but wiser people question what is presented to them and then evaluate. I invite you to take part in this social experiment...evaluate people/issues in your life to understand this idea.
Let me elaborate further, before you proceed to understand people in your life...it is important to notice how the factor of trust is intertwined with respect for our own mental faculties. We tend to create a bubble of comfort around every relationship in our lives. We tend to believe in...trust the other person... respect what is told to us on its face value and believe that it is true...or strictly avoid a certain person depending on the kind of bubble we have created for our relationship with that person...There will be instances when people whom you had faith in...give you enough reasons...not to trust them anymore...thus, breaking the bubble...Now, please look into your own lives and evaluate your bubbles of comfort with people around you...people who matter to you....
Do you find every bubble is what it is truly worth ? I appreciate your faculties of judgment...Do you find few bubbles have a scar or two ...and then you wish to work on them ..to restore them, back to normal? Are you responsible for the scar ? Are you willing to change? It is possible...and this is the change you need to seek... If you are not responsible for the scar...are you ready to forgive? This is the change you need to seek...All the Best...
Did few bubbles get burst? Did someone repeatedly puncture your bubble of trust ? This is not reason enough to be harsh on your own self and question your faculties of judgment...it is an indication to let go...this is the change you need seek...Intelligent people learn from their mistakes...never to do it again...and last but not the least...if you happen to be someone who can never be trusted , you have lived a life of deceit hurting others and your attitude is beyond repair...then it is time you do some serious introspection...this is the change you need to seek ...and I invite you to read one of my other posts here which might be of some help to understand my reasons to a possible question of why you need to change?
Please Note : This post is to record few principles of what I see as my faith. I invite the readers to examine it and present their opinion.
Before I proceed, I wish to spend some time talking about my definition of faith...The noun fish can be construed as singular or plural. Similarly, faith is a combination of beliefs, principles and values. We as social beings, live in a religiously pluralist world, with each and every one of us interacting with different religions/ teachings in our own way...and all our experiences frame our faith which is our own.
I believe every being is a small component of Universal Energy, which is seen in/as various forms according to different religions/beliefs. As a newly born child, each of us is given a role to play, a puzzle to answer, a task to complete. In our efforts to achieve what we are destined for, we are allowed to make choices...This I believe is our real test called life. I have come to believe with my experiences...God (Universal Energy) is always kind...we are never tested/judged on whether or not we will be able to identify our destiny...our duty for which we are given an opportunity..but we are judged on the choices we make. in our efforts..I have always believed to see the bigger picture...with every moment...every experience we encounter, as a hint given to us to seek our destiny...
While our choices frame one half of what we are judged on, emotions make up the other half of judgment... our intentions are more important than our actions...when we are to choose, it is important to respect emotions...sincerity and honesty in our intention will always reflect on our respect for emotions. When you fail to be sincere and honest in your intentions, and hence show no respect for emotions (of your own and that of others)...your soul loses its purity and thus punished...
It is always an interesting question to ask, when others around us have no moral values, are ethically challenged and have least regard for my emotions, why do I have to still respect their emotions? Everyone of us is given a role to play, and we script our own ways to achieve what we are destined for....we are not asked to judge others, we are to be sincere in our efforts, honest in our approach and respect emotions...thus grow closer to Universal Energy and possibly reunite with it...while those who fail to be sincere and honest...will lose respect and dignity... and will be punished in a befitting manner....for impure souls will burn in the glow of Universal Flame (Universal Energy..which is purest in its behavior and judgment...we all need to strive to achieve its purity to reunite with it)
This is my faith...I always choose (to the best of my knowledge) to be sincere and honest in my approach and intention...respect emotions...and those who wish to not value my emotions...I believe will be critically punished and awarded with the kind of respect they truly deserve...
India, as a country represents multitude of thoughts, variety of approaches for solving pressing issues.One such issue, is the system of dowry. For the uninitiated, Dowry is the payment in cash or/and kind by the bride's family to the bridegroom' s family, one of many practices which are seen as rather, a normal routine during an Indian marriage. The practice of dowry abuse is rising in India. The most severe in “bride burning”, the burning of women whose dowries were not considered sufficient by their husband or in-laws. Most of these incidents are reported as accidental burns in the kitchen or are disguised as suicide. It is evident that there exist deep rooted prejudices against women in India.
Cultural practices such as the payment of dowry tend to subordinate women in Indian society. Worse still, women who might have been subjected to this practice do not invest time in thinking twice, when it comes to marriages of their sons...
We wish to gather the support of all those who think that this system is a curse to humanity, and those who pledge to stand against this system prevalent in the Indian society. Let us all join hands against this crime, become more socially responsible for a happy existence for each and everyone of us. Be human and let us spread this word as much as we can.. Show your support, join us on facebook here
Elegant shades on any canvas...speak of varied influences (both negative and positive). I present my true reflections of such influences on my canvas..influences which have destroyed/ cut short my growth as a person...influences which helped me grow as a person. I wish to acknowledge both these influences...I understand without the negatives...I probably will not have been able to appreciate the positives in my life....I understood there are emotions which are far more supreme than trust, love, betrayal and hatred...' Dignity of Thought & Soul ' is the theme for this edition of Avowal Series... I salute and respect everyone for their influences on my self...This work is my dedication for your support.
With dignity...
Abhijith
Photo Credits: The image on display is the cover image for the second edition of Avowal Series. It has been designed by Tripti. Copyrights Reserved.
One day, I woke up to a text update of status tags...The line happens to be the status message on my sister's facebook account...What in life is worth a wait? Interesting question....
Time brings back anecdotes to celebrate the moment... and certain lines like these add value. I have come to believe in destiny with complete faith. Most of my life, events / moments have been so random that when I tend to see them piece by piece they would make no real sense, but when I wish to put together a chain of events, it brings me more happiness to see how destiny has been playing a silent game of putting together pieces of jigsaw called life for me.
I wish to talk about moments which I had to wait for 8 years to come true... and I shall cherish them for rest of my life and beyond. Moments which presented me with happiness of thought and my existence. This post is to record my emotion of existence : March 11- 14.
Each emotion is filled in with moments...I have seen the high and understand every true emotion will touch a low...not to die down but to rise again to give us the freshness of it and cherish it even more. Destiny happens to be a critical examiner...pushes me deep into thought before presenting me with happiness of emotion....I have come to believe in destiny, because I strongly believe in my emotions.... Destiny demands patience and sincerity, and then shall place back the moment, and let in freshness...
Friends, this in life is worth a wait...and I shall wait...
At this juncture in my life, I wish to speak about how everyone of us wish to sit down and understand where we are headed with our life. Its a mix of independent and collective effort to understand our lives. Society is an interesting fabric. It gives us an opportunity to learn from our experiences but it is not helpful in reaching out to ourselves in the past.
All what used to be ... I am assured will never be the same again... All that I wish to have... I understand will never be within my reach....
Desire is the key to motivation, but its the determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal, a desire to excel, that will enable you to attain the success you seek. We at SimplyJITH believe that the journey is not hard. It only seems hard because the human mind fears the river and avoids the mountain...
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