I've had this post sitting as
a draft - work in progress for over a year now. Often when an important media
outlet publishes something about being an 'independent woman'...I read it, find it either boring
or angering, feel unsatisfied, left out, talked down to, or all of the above.
If the story spoke about a particularly narrow minded approach of looking at
independent women (by narrow minded, I refer to outlook towards present day
realities), I consciously choose not to think on it, and I put it aside
and move on.
These stories felt unrealistic and
awful, in many ways they kept my anguish alive, although I couldn't have known
at that time the extent to which they were very particular stories told from a
particular perspective, presented as a truth long untold. On the contrary, I
consider concepts such as feminism and being an 'independent woman' enjoy obnoxious comfort zone in our present day social life. Most
of the stories speak of a dubious trend - a collectively guarded bubble of
hope...feminism.
Bitch(es) Beyond Repair
The primary point that I wish to
discuss in this post: Is the phrase 'independent woman' passé? Unfortunately, unlike many
others who wish to follow the acceptable trend to guard the bubble, I
want to discuss about being an 'independent woman'. The picture she (an independent
woman) paints of contemporary sexuality and contemporary life feels like the
opposite of an acceptable social revelation. Certainly for those of us, who fit
neatly into a gender debate, will argue otherwise.
During my last visit to United
States, I remember hearing one woman say,
"...sorry for hurting you
and to break your heart, truly this is not me...it is how people made me to
be...I seek growth, and to be truthful will mean a compromise..."
An interesting phrase in that
conversation,
...to be truthful will mean a
compromise...gave me reasons enough to think about the possibility of an
emerging trend...independent women, babelicious are a passé...
Ladies and Gentlemen...allow me to
present to you...Bitch(es) Beyond Repair...the emerging social trend...when a
woman turns into a heavily resource consuming commodity with little or no
ethical judgment, immaturity beyond comprehension, attitude beyond control and
uses her sexuality, rather than intellect as the tool for career / worldly
progression...we have a bitch
beyond repair (BBR).
