Often I find myself pondering over this question, even when my life offers me all that I possibly want, there is a sense of loss...why? What am I destined for? Do you sometimes find yourself praying for a positive encounter about understanding your destiny? Many people find destiny elusive and capricious, and it's true that while some people seem to be naturally blessed to seek their path, others seem to get no help at all. In my opinion, destiny is much more than just a cosmic whim. I feel our relationship to destiny is strongly aligned with our own attitude towards it and that the choices we make can actually go a long way into creating our own path.
For example, some of the people have actually paved their path by looking at problems and stumbling blocks as opportunities. These people just don't give up when things look bleak or walls seem insurmountable. It is true that when trying to tackle a problem, there is always the possibility you won't overcome it. That said, if you quite before you even give it a good try, you are most likely eliminating any chances to excel. You will have to win over yourself first.
Being aware of the pros and cons of opportunities that come your way is a very important part of creating your own destiny. A good card player knows when to stay in the game and when to fold his cards. Often what we mistake as destiny, can be simply the fact of having experience and using good judgment. People we may perceive as being destined could just know how to pay attention and to do their research. In this way, they have become good at judging when to move forward and when to step back, thus improving their chances. You need to take ownership of your actions.
Many people we look up to, are just very good at preparing for success and they are not afraid of hard work. Preparing for success also affects how often one enjoys what we perceive as nature's play. If you want to become an actor you take acting classes, have head shots taken and look for a good agent. Prepare yourself by working towards your goals. Then when an opportunity comes you'll be ready to shine.
If you want to seek destiny, you need to win over yourself. Make up your mind and go after what you want, and take ownership of your actions and consequences. And as Paulo Coelho puts it, universe will conspire itself to make you reach your destiny.
